Yes, there are many white women who have adopted Black and Latinx children and raised them in loving homes. And there are also adoptive white moms Jennifer and Sarah Hart who are allowed to adopt Black children despite a history of abuse and drove their children off a cliff earlier this year. I urge white women who have intimate relationships with Black, Latinx, Native American, and Asian American romantic partners, children, family, friends, students, people you serve at a nonprofit: we need to do Antiracism work on ourselves so we do not harm those we love and serve. I know many of us are well intentioned. But white supremacy lurks in all of us and comes out as harm to those closest to us. Do not for a second believe that proximity to people of color absolves us of the need to exorcise white supremacy from within all of us. It’s there until we claw it out, and we must continuously work on getting it out, it’s a lifelong process.