Yes Heather, it is so hard for us white women to shut up and listen! I see it now on Rachel Cargle’s Instagram feed, the defensiveness must stop. Everything Rachel is pointing out is true, don’t deny it. Listen to her. When someone says something that causes you to react defensively, that’s because she is pointing out a truth you don’t want to hear. Hear it, dwell with it, reflect on it, and figure out how to be better. And then demonstrate by your consistent behavior that you are better.
And once we have shut up and listened for a good long while, it is extremely important that we find our voice again. And start pointing out to more white people why we must change. And standing up to our elected officials and neighbors and kids schools and workplaces and demanding change.